Most of the time things are good with my Mom. But sometimes she gets into severely depressed and angry moods. When she does, she says some extremely hurtful things. I know that it's her depression and frustration talking, but her words weighed me. I try to do my best for her, but it gets hard sometimes.
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I am so sorry you have to deal with this. While your mum being depressed seems to be unavoidable, being angry with you and saying those hurtful words can probably be prevented. When she say those words with a clear headed mind and is aware of how they are hurting you, you should do something about it.
You can consider letting her know that you can choose to send her to a nursing home or hire a caregiver but instead, you are choosing to take care of her yourself because you love her. A daughter does not deserve to be treated like this. If she still continues, let her live a day without you, for her to understand that her words have consequences and should be stopped.
You can also consider seeking help and support from a therapist who can give you a better perspective of your relationship with your mum.
Hope this helps! All the best.